when i look at the flurry of emails that transpired between us, i am literally awestruck. yes, some are short little quips and we’ll get to more of those, i’m sure… but the dynamic was set right away of frequent and substantive communication… which was so refreshing and such a relief! one hurdle taken care of, in my opinion. next, david wrote me back, confirming his interest:
Annie,
Thanks for your reply. I am away this weekend, and we are driving back soon, so I don’t have much time to reply.
I enjoyed hearing your history, and I’ll be happy to share mine as well. Finding someone that is local, trustworthy, mutually attractive and that there is a connection with is very hard. I am happy to hear that you found two that gave you some happiness.
The same sense of sincerity that I read in your ad came through strongly in your email. And I am basically ecstatic that you liked my message, short as it was.
You have rules, I have rules, lets just hope that our rules are acceptable to one another.
I am *certainly* interested… way beyond certainly, in fact.
Tell me more about yourself and what you are looking for. I expect to be home by 8 or 9 pm and will be online after that.
Again, thanks for your reply.
David
and again, i was so very wordy in my response… i can’t imagine why since that’s so unlike me ::rolls eyes::…
wow – what a pleasant surprise! i have to say that i thought the odds of you replying were way under 50-50 when i got done with that email… but i didn’t know what else to say, it was just what was on my heart at the moment. i came out here to confirm that i hadn’t recieved a response from you, although obviously hoping (and thankful) that was not true.
i think the easiest way to describe what i’m looking for is to repeat what you’ve sensed already: sincerity. i’m looking for someone to share a little bit of life with, to “date” (using the term very loosely, of course)… i would like to care for someone, give to someone, enjoy someone’s company and have all that be reciprocated, too. i would love to find an adventurous, romantic and intimate partner for full-on sexual endeavors, as well as someone i can find a little solace with in a hug, cuddle and kiss.
obviously all of this takes a backseat to “real lives”, i.e. our families (do you have kids?). but hopefully between lunches and meeting after work once in a while and maybe even a longer afternoon or something in a blue moon… we’d truely find a friend to, like i said, share a little corner of life with. a corner that’s full of the sparks and energy and excitement that comes with “new love”-type feelings…
unfortunately – or fortunately? i don’t know which it is actually – but anyway, in the interest of full disclosure, my spouse will probably not be in the picture for too much longer. things have been getting increasingly worse over the last three years or so… he knows nothing of my extracirricular activities, and i’m growing accepting of the split. my heart breaks only for my two young kids… whose world is going to be thrown upside down. anyway, i want you to know that b/c it’s part of my hurt right now, part of where my heart is at, but i am in no way looking for a replacement. i can’t ever imagine making such a committment again, actually, and just really ask that you trust me on that. once you meet me, and can, i will appreciate it.
wow – so if i haven’t driven you away YET we must be doing REALLY WELL
me. quick synopsis of me. i am a creative spirit but not a very accomplished one i must admit. i dabble in a little bit of everything from handicrafts to cooking to geneology… the thing i probably enjoy most is photography. very much an amature, but i enjoy telling a story through photos. oh! and i also do some writing. some reporting in my earlier years, but mostly fiction now. i am 5’7″, larger, plus size lady, medium length/medium brown hair, blue eyes, infectious smile (i’m told)… i love the outdoors. have loved biking, hiking, etc… i love the water – lakes, rivers, the falls, anything – it relaxes me and makes me happy. i love live music, watching movies and tv series on dvd… i love taking a walk anywhere, but especially downtown or various “main streets”.
hmmmm… that seems like quite enough! hope your drive went well and the sunday night routine is comforting at your home. im afraid i will be repeating myself, but i do hope i hear from you again and regardless wish you all good things! i’m sort of astounded at myself, the transparency i’ve shared here… like i said, perhaps it’s “processing”, perhaps something else.
~a
then this came; the proverbial ‘other shoe’:
Annie,
Tell me why you thought the odds were way under 50-50? Serious question…
I could just say that you and I are looking for exactly the same thing, but that wouldn’t be very nice or very fair to you. I could have written your second paragraph, because that is exactly what I want. By the way, I can’t find your original ad (not that it matters), so I refer to it in replying more carefully.
You were open about characteristics that you think might be a problem for me, so I’ll do the same. I work too much, spend a lot of time exercising, and my wife also works closeby to where I do. These things combine to mean that I don’t have a lot of free time. I might not be as available as you would like. I am also extremely cautious about my wife finding out and her being hurt by my activities.
I love her. I never want to see her hurt because of my extracurricular activities. I will be with her forever. I am a marriage-for-life kind of guy. (Don’t read any judgment of your situation into my words, either.)
I am older than you. I don’t know how much older, because I don’t know your age. Maybe too old. That is your judgment call. Old is a number and old is perspective. I will understand, although I will be unhappy, if you find me too old.
I’m tall and fit. I’m a biker. Most Saturday mornings I bike 30+ miles, even into the fall and winter as long as it’s not a blizzard. Let’s just say that means I don’t tire easily.
I work in a scientific field in a large, international industry. I manage a team of people but still get out to consult once in a while, usually to New York or California. And as I said, I work too much.
My libido is constantly roaring at a deafening pitch–I’m so horny all the time that I wonder if my libido is a pleasure or a curse. I can control my libido, but trust me, sometimes you’d want me to let it go, to your benefit and mine.
I like to make love and I like to fuck. I have an adventurous tongue–you’ll never hear me say, “Oh, you should have showered first!” And I’m a little kinky.
Let’s spend the time writing and getting to know each other.
Your infectious smile comes thru in your writing.
Hugs!!
i was very unenthused that this man seemed so wonderful, but that his free time would be so limited… i was certain i didn’t want to compromise, wasn’t going to go down a road that wouldn’t prove to be fruitful anyway. life is too short. i didn’t know what to be other than honest:
My first thoughts are that unfortunately while i’m looking for something casual/fwb/nsa… i am looking for something regular i.e. more often than it sounds like you would be able. working so close to your wife i would imagine is going to a big hurdle to overcome in that regard. you sound like you truely -dare i say- adore your wife… its too bad she doesnt share your passions, desires. i trust you have tried to introduce them to her, entice her to your active, adventurous and kinky side…. its so very unfortunate…
i think we would have matched well, as half the attraction is already taken care of – i can tell you are an engaging and compelling man, in lots and lots of ways, that really really matter. if you want to continue to be penpals or whatever, i believe i would enjoy that very much. ~annie ———- Sent from my mobile phone
but he continued his charm:
Annie,
Groan of sadness…. I feel the connection, the attraction… but…
Don’t be so quick to judge whether or not I would have the time you want. What I wrote was in the same vein of full disclosure as yours were. Or maybe you are really concerned about age, and want to be kind.
I personally think it is way too early to have made up your mind about where we might go. You asked me to trust you regarding your potential split with your husband. How about if you give me the benefit of the doubt regarding my availability.
Let’s keep writing–I don’t need to take a break.
Tell me about how you like to be kissed and touched. Tell my about your favorite body part (sexually). Tell me how you masturbate.
Share with me!
and i guess we’ll get to that next time…